I asked for a response from the ladies and they have spoken. 

Main Chicks, Side Chicks, or Groupies - How do you identify?

Sunshine
(South GA)

My problem is I am TopShelf (MAINCHICK material) But I find that most men only want side chicks or groupies and I refuse to downgrade. How do you get men to notice that you are a main chick? I think the problem is most men don't know when they are experiencing the main chick because women downgrade to try to trick men into  lasting relationships.
Ladies don't downgrade if he does'nt notice your greatness then maybe, "NO HE IS"  a side dude or groupie and in that case you should do what V. Foxx said in Two Can Play That Game that's right, CHECK HIM... KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB AND KEEP STEPPING. I always tell men I'm not coming down to you, you have to come to me.
MY NAME IS SUNSHINE BECAUSE I SHINE LIGHT ON IGNORANCE